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Should girls ask boys out on dates?

Poll: Should girls ask boys out on dates? (45 member(s) have cast votes)

Should girls ask boys out on dates?

  1. Yes (44 votes [97.78%])

    Percentage of vote: 97.78%

  2. No (1 votes [2.22%])

    Percentage of vote: 2.22%

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#1 User is offline   mr1303 

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Posted 2008-November-27, 14:17

Imagine you're a single girl in your early 20s. There's a boy you like, but you're not sure if he likes you.

Should you a) ask him out yourself, or b) try to hint to him that you like him and get him to ask you out?
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Posted 2008-November-27, 14:24

Do you mean "I prefer to live in a society where it is ok for girls to ask out guys as much as the other way round", or are you asking for personal advice?
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Posted 2008-November-27, 14:24

That would definitely be unusually assertive, but in a good way, to me at least :)
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Posted 2008-November-27, 14:26

If the guy is Csaba, I think she should ask him directly.
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Posted 2008-November-27, 14:38

This is more personal advice than society in general, although feel free to comment on anything relevant.
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Posted 2008-November-27, 15:17

Only if she pays.

Liberation applies to the wallet as well.
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Posted 2008-November-27, 15:17

The answer is easy: "It depends on the guy."
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Posted 2008-November-27, 15:48

I can't fathom a world where it wouldn't be 50/50.

I also can't fathom a world where a 20 year old woman would ever ask me out. :)
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Posted 2008-November-27, 16:10

vuroth, on Nov 27 2008, 09:48 PM, said:

I can't fathom a world where it wouldn't be 50/50.

I also can't fathom a world where a 20 year old woman would ever ask me out. :)

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Posted 2008-November-27, 16:51

cherdano, on Nov 27 2008, 10:17 PM, said:

The answer is easy: "It depends on the guy."

Yes, and on the girl.

I have always been to shy to ask someone out, but more power to those who have the guts. Regardless of gender, of course.
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Posted 2008-November-27, 17:05

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Imagine you're a single girl in your early 20s. There's a boy you like, but you're not sure if he likes you.

Should you a) ask him out yourself, or :) try to hint to him that you like him and get him to ask you out?


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Posted 2008-November-27, 17:22

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Posted 2008-November-27, 18:32

Only if the girl is Helene :)
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Posted 2008-November-27, 23:37

mr1303, on Nov 27 2008, 03:17 PM, said:

Imagine you're a single girl in your early 20s. There's a boy you like, but you're not sure if he likes you.

Should you a) ask him out yourself, or :) try to hint to him that you like him and get him to ask you out?

I am having some trouble imagining myself as a girl, imagining I am in my early twenties, and imagining that there is a guy I want to go out with. But what the hell, I'll give it a shot.

Women have been initiating contact since the beginning of time. The issue is how. If a woman is up for direct, I suggest something like: " I am not deeply involved with anyone, if that information is of any interest to you" and then let it go where it goes. There is nothing inherently wrong with asking a guy out but let me mention a guy fact that perhaps would not occur to a woman. Most of us do not have a lot of experience turning down a direct invitation, and this can make things awkward if we prefer not to accept. We are (well, I speak only for myself, and many years ago at that) well-acquainted with rejection from women and most of us have learned to handle it with minimal social unease. Turning down a suggestion from a woman may be tougher. Here is a line I roughly remember from Zorba the Greek: "God has a very big heart but there is one sin that he will not forgive. If a woman calls a man to her bed and he will not go." It's a heavy responsibility we guys bear. But we must try.

Maybe the direct approach would work fine. As mentioned, it depends on both the man and the woman. But the way things were usually done fifty years ago was this: The woman finds a way to make it clear that there is interest and then she waits. This was socially useful, avoided awkward moments, and still got the job done. But obviously times have changed, so what do I know.
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Posted 2008-November-28, 08:42

Well. that was fairly tortured....


How about:

"Hi there! I really like your.....eyes. What are you doing later?"

or the more perfunctory;

"They say that the way to a woman's heart is thru your wallet....."
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Posted 2008-December-01, 14:41

Well, when I was younger, it did happen to me.

We knew each other from playing volleyball and handed me a note which said "If you want to do something, give me a call at xxx-xxxx"

If the person is worried about saving face, you now have put the onus on the guy to call. If he is interested, he will. If not, he won't.
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Posted 2008-December-01, 15:07

Mark, my advice is to stop waiting and just ask her out yourself.
Please note: I am interested in boring, bog standard, 2/1.

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Posted 2008-December-01, 16:35

LOL Han.

I think in general girls should stop wasting their time dropping hints which don't work on clueless guys (like myself!).
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Posted 2008-December-01, 16:50

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Posted 2008-December-01, 16:58

han, on Dec 1 2008, 09:07 PM, said:

Mark, my advice is to stop waiting and just ask her out yourself.

I'll pass this advice on to my very single sister-in-law who has been asking me for advice!!!
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