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#1 User is offline   jillybean 

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Posted 2012-May-14, 08:14

In the BCD Teams at the sectional yesterday our opps began with this auction.

(1) - P - very long tank (2)

After the 2 bid I said 'do you agree there was a long pause before the 2 bid?'

2 bidder agreed that she had tanked, her partner however did not agree and simply started
to argue that it wasn't relevant, finishing with a threatening "what are you going to do, call the director?"

I find that this type of intimidating behaviour is not uncommon in BCD games.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 08:18

View Postjillybean, on 2012-May-14, 08:14, said:

In the BCD Teams at the sectional yesterday our opps began with this auction.

(1) - P - very long tank (2)

After the 2 bid I said 'do you agree there was a long pause before the 2 bid?'

2 bidder agreed that she had tanked, her partner however did not agree and simply started
to argue that it wasn't relevant, finishing with a threatening "what are you going to do, call the director?"

I find that this type of intimidating behaviour is not uncommon in BCD games.


Call the director

Start by asking for a zero tolerance infraction
Follow up by registering that the was a hitch
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Posted 2012-May-14, 08:40

In an auction like 1 - pass - (sloooowww) 2, I honestly wouldn't bother with the usual, "do you agree there was a hesitation"? I would just let it go. Its going to be difficult to sort out the UI six bids later. Contrast this with a tank after a high level competitive sequence where its clear to protect yourself.

You are probably dealing with newer players that don't understand the the concept of reserving your rights.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 08:47

View PostPhil, on 2012-May-14, 08:40, said:

In an auction like 1 - pass - (sloooowww) 2, I honestly wouldn't bother with the usual, "do you agree there was a hesitation"? I would just let it go. Its going to be difficult to sort out the UI six bids later.


Might the infraction not come earlier than that? Having said that, it's hard to see what a slow 2D suggests - it might be a 9-count, or if opps are inexperienced (which they are by the sound of their attitude) it might be an 18-count.

I think calling the TD is best here. He can friendly-ly explain that the OP has every right to ask about a hesitation.

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Posted 2012-May-14, 08:57

View Postjillybean, on 2012-May-14, 08:14, said:

finishing with a threatening "what are you going to do, call the director?"


Just say mildly, "yes, it's best if we establish the facts now."

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I find that this type of intimidating behaviour is not uncommon in BCD games.


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Posted 2012-May-14, 09:13

View PostPhil, on 2012-May-14, 08:40, said:

You are probably dealing with newer players that don't understand the the concept of reserving your rights.
which is exactly why you call the director and let him explain the concept to the newbies.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 09:15

View PostVampyr, on 2012-May-14, 08:57, said:

View Postjillybean, on 2012-May-14, 08:14, said:

I find that this type of intimidating behaviour is not uncommon in BCD games.
A good solution is not playing in them.

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Posted 2012-May-14, 09:25

View PostPhil, on 2012-May-14, 08:40, said:

In an auction like 1 - pass - (sloooowww) 2, I honestly wouldn't bother with the usual, "do you agree there was a hesitation"? I would just let it go. Its going to be difficult to sort out the UI six bids later. Contrast this with a tank after a high level competitive sequence where its clear to protect yourself.

I see the difference between 1 tank 2 and a tank after a high level competitive sequence but I'm not sure that I don't want to protect my rights here. This was not a hitch but a significant BIT. I don't know what the long pause suggests, I don't know the opponents system but that is for the director to sort out later, if needed.
It should be a simple matter to establish the BIT here.


View PostVampyr, on 2012-May-14, 08:57, said:


A good solution is not playing in them.

What a fabuloos suggestion.


View PostBbradley62, on 2012-May-14, 09:13, said:

which is exactly why you call the director and let him explain the concept to the newbies.

Agree. Unfortunately I think the BIT may be addressed but not the bullying.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 09:51

Again, I wouldn't worry about this one.

If you start reserving your rights every time your opponent tanks, you are in for a long, unpleasant day.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 09:55

I agree with Phil's philosophy about this situation, while not disagreeing with Jilly's techincal right to say what she said or to call the TD when the facts were not stipulated.

The one opponent who actually hesitated seems to have understood and responded objectively. The opening bidder seems to have (incorrectly, I hope) felt he/she was the one being intimidated. ZT would not be appropriate here, merely education about reserving one's rights by establishing agreement on the facts.

BTW, I don't ever recall either our side or the opponents ever attempting a stipulation about a slow first response in an uncontested auction. If it were my partner who had made the slow bid, I would agree about the B.I.T and get on with matters. The "UI" I possess is that she finally came up with the appropriate game-forcing response and has a follow-up plan in keeping with our system.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 10:18

If it makes any difference, the 2 bidder was a passed hand. I didn't post the auction correctly sorry, my focus was on my lho, not the bidding sequence :)
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Posted 2012-May-14, 10:40

View Postjillybean, on 2012-May-14, 10:18, said:

If it makes any difference, the 2 bidder was a passed hand. I didn't post the auction correctly sorry, my focus was on my lho, not the bidding sequence :)

It merely would eliminate "game-force" from my last paragraph. It doesn't change anything relevant to what occurred, since that paragraph was a side issue.
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Posted 2012-May-14, 11:06

Your obnoxious opponent doesn't sound like a beginner to me. It sounds more like someone who's been playing for years without ever becoming any good. Anyway, I would respond with "That's a good idea. Director please."

Personally I wouldn't bother to complain about the player's behaviour - life's too short. Just get the facts agreed before the other opponent gets a chance to change her mind.
... that would still not be conclusive proof, before someone wants to explain that to me as well as if I was a 5 year-old. - gwnn
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Posted 2012-May-14, 11:45

"Yes, that sounds like a good idea. Director, please."

If I was feeling particularly passive-aggressive today, I would explain everything that happened, in calm polite tones, exactly as I remembered hearing it, ending with "and opener said 'no, there wasn't a long hesitation, and it isn't relevant anyway, and what are you going to do, call the Director?' I'm not sure there's any issue, but I figured it was best to call."
If I was even more passive-aggressive, I would add "[best to call], on LHO's suggestion." but I think that would be pushing it a bit.

It sounds (knowing the 2 bidder is a passed hand) that she was trying to remember if she played 2-way Drury with this partner or not. Probably not an issue, but not something I would want to have the discussion about at the end of the hand if we hadn't had this discussion after 2 :-)
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Posted 2012-May-14, 13:34

:rolleyes:

Answer seems very simple to me

Do Not stand for bullying Fetch the TD that is partially what TD is there for to Stop this type of thing happening :angry:
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Posted 2012-May-15, 07:15

In some ways, the responses suggesting that it is not worth establishing a hesitation are red herrings. Yes, it may not be worth the trouble, and I would not, but once you have done so you must not stand for bullying: call the TD.

As for playing in B/C/D events, bridge is meant to be a pleasant social yet challenging game. While someone like myself will always play in the highest level game I am allowed to, and have felt that way since my university days, that certainly does not apply to everyone. The fact that it is a B/C/D game is no excuse whatever for unpleasantness of this sort, and we must deal with rude players at that level.
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Posted 2012-May-15, 08:48

I too would rather get bloodied and beaten in A/X than play in B/C/D but this usually only happens when I am playing with someone who
does not qualify for B/C/D. It is very hard impossible to persuade a B/C/D team to play in A/X, some partners will play up.

Having played a few times now in both B/C/D and A/X, I have experienced more unpleasantness and unethical behaviour in B/C/D.
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Posted 2012-May-15, 10:19

View Postjillybean, on 2012-May-15, 08:48, said:

Having played a few times now in both B/C/D and A/X, I have experienced more unpleasantness and unethical behaviour in B/C/D.

Someone once said: "Do not attribute to malice that which can be explained by stupidity".

I think most of the unethical behavior you see in B/C/D events is simply players not knowing better, that is they are not consciously doing improper things. In A/X, they are at least supposed to know better, though they often do not.
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Posted 2012-May-15, 15:15

View Postjillybean, on 2012-May-14, 08:14, said:

..., finishing with a threatening "what are you going to do, call the director?"


I would suggest replying "Yes", calling the TD, telling him the exchange with the opponents, and mentioning zero tolerance.
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Posted 2012-May-15, 15:34

Has anyone had any experience in calling the director on these zero tolerance matters?
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